Whether parents connect an allowance to chores or believe they should be done as a member of the household, most parents struggle with getting their kids to do them. “Nag, nag, nag, that’s all I do,” complained one mom. “And half the time I wind up doing them myself because I’m tired of fighting.”
Here are a few ideas parents have used to get chores done with less nagging:
- Popsicle Sticks: Instead of a chore chart, one parent writes them on popsicle sticks and lets her kids choose them. This eliminates bickering over whose turn it is to do what, or complaints of “I always have to do that!” (Trading is allowed.)
- Password Hostage: The same mom changes the wi-fi password daily and only reveals it when chores are finished. (Phones, controllers, and power cords can also be held as hostages.)
- Earning Opportunities: In our house, extra money could be earned by doing chores that were harder than the weekly ones. Washing windows, cleaning the fridge, and weeding were paid chores. However, regular chores had to be done before any money-earning chores could be started.
- Stick the Parents: I used to make a list of 8 chores that needed to be done. Our 3 sons would sign up for 2 chores each, leaving the last 2 for Mom. They enjoyed sticking me with cleaning toilets and mopping floors – but they also realized we all had to do our part!
- Love and Logic®: Instead of threatening – “If you don’t do it, you’re in trouble!” – Love and Logic teaches saying it differently – “When you’re finished, feel free to play!”
Doing chores will help your teen be a better citizen, student, and adult. Don’t give up!