An Interesting Mystery

Interesting winter weather in my backyard

I like interesting weather.  It doesn’t matter whether it’s hot, cold, sunny, frosty, rainy, snowy, or windy – as long as it’s not a flat, uniformly gray sky, I love it.  I also love interesting students, especially those who aren’t what we call “traditional learners.”

Each year I face a new group of students; some will talk too much and others won’t say enough.  Some will complete every homework assignment on time, while others will struggle just to complete every assignment.  Some won’t be able to keep track of their homework; others will help me keep track of mine.  They’re all interesting to me, and I love the challenge of uncovering each one’s quirks and finding out what makes them tick.

I read a book recently in which the author said we should view kids as mysteries to be solved rather than as problems to be fixed.  What great advice, not only for teachers, but also for parents!

We can’t underestimate the impact of parenting, but there are many traits that children are just born with, such as organizational skills (or lack thereof), an extroverted (or introverted) personality, a strong will (or a compliant nature).  Parents who take the time to understand the workings of their kids’ minds and hearts will be more effective and have closer relationships.

As their children become tweens and teens, parents should guard against assuming they know what their kids are thinking.  Take the time to listen, to observe, and even occasionally, to ask.  Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with your teen, search for clues to the mystery of how your adolescent will become a young adult.

I guarantee the plot will be full of unexpected twists and turns!

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2 Comments

  1. Sue, it sure would relieve a lot of pressure to look at our kids with an eye for understanding them rather than changing them. You have hit on the difference between “is” and “should”. Accept, even celebrate, what is. There are very few real shoulds.

    I appreciate the joy you find in your relationship with young people. It’s contagious!

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